AskMen’s Great Male Survey brings a lot of interesting insights to light about the way men really think and feel about dating and sex, from how likely they are to cheat if they know their partner will never find out to if they would dump their girlfriend if she got fat to if they really think they know when a woman is faking an orgasm. The question that seems to be making the most waves, however, is how many partners it takes for a woman to be considered sexually promiscuous.
According to this year’s survey results, the number is 5. That’s right — if a woman sleeps with 5 or more partners, men consider her to be sexually promiscuous. Take a look at the results:
Without some sort of context for how women are reaching their 5 or more sex partners, that number is just flat out ridiculous. Okay, if a woman reaches 5 or more sex partners by having one-night stands or by jumping into bed with these men on the first date, then I can see where that might be considered promiscuous. But what about the women who have achieved these numbers over time with men they have built relationships with? Take, for example, a woman in her late twenties. She’s unmarried and has slept with 5 men. Is she promiscuous? What if I told you she was in long-term relationships with each of those men, with long-term being defined as two years or longer? Is she still promiscuous?
Despite how far we’ve come in terms of gender equality, women still face an unequal playing field when it comes to sex. Our culture still believes women should not want and/or have sex as much as men. In fact, I don’t think it’s a far stretch to say this survey illustrates that men still believe sex is primarily for their pleasure. After all, I suspect men do not consider themselves promiscuous if they’ve slept with 5 or more women.
Think of it this way, male readers: the next time you’re enjoying an evening of passionate sex with your girlfriend or wife, realize there is a large group of men out there who consider her slutty because of what she’s doing with you. It doesn’t matter if you’re monogamous or in love; if you’re her 5th or greater sex partner, she’s promiscuous. End of story.
Food for thought.
Love and years-long one-night stands,
The Slasher Chick