New Dating Site Connects People Who Cannot Have Sex

2date4love screenshotWould you date someone if you knew you’d never be able to have sex with them? Take a moment to think about it because I’m betting your first inclination is to answer as politically correctly as possible. After all, no one wants to come off as shallow or fixated on sex. But would you really date someone if you knew there was zero chance you’d ever be able to have sex with that person? If we’re brutally honest with ourselves, I think we all know that without a pre-established bond with a person, it would take a pretty exceptional connection to get beyond the first few dates knowing you’d never share full physical intimacy with that person. And even if that bond is already there, physical intimacy is such a natural part of our relationships that the inability to share such a connection with someone you love would be an enormous challenge. That’s the challenge cancer survivor Laura Brashier faced after the cancer treatments that saved her life left her physically unable to have sexual intercourse. In an interview with ABC News, Brashier says she was young and otherwise healthy when she was diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer, which doctors later discovered had metastasized. The ensuing treatments caused her vagina to “close up” and sex to become too painful because of the resulting scar tissue. Vaginal sex became an impossibility, and discussing it with boyfriends equally as difficult, so she stopped becoming romantically involved with men. And who can blame her? Regardless of one’s religious or moral beliefs about sex, the fact is that we all expect to have sex at one point in our lives, whether it’s with the person you marry, the people you hope to marry, or the people with whom you simply choose to share such an act. Sexual intercourse is a natural part of our lives — a source of pleasure, an emotional connection, the method by which we create life. So how do you have a normal, healthy relationship when physical intimacy is not an option? Laura Brashier turned to the Internet for support, knowing that there had to be others out there facing the same problem. More than a decade after her battle with cancer, the 50-year-old survivor decided to face her problem head on by launching 2date4love, a dating website designed for people who cannot have sexual intercourse. According to Brashier, despite all of the challenges she has faced, she still wants a romantic relationship and knows there are others just like her who want to be accepted and loved for who they are. The site launched August 1, and, according to ABC News, had 2,000 visitors in the first three days. While difficult to hear and nearly impossible to imagine, Brashier’s story and the stories of those who have turned to her site for help are a reminder that, while sex is a natural part of life, it’s not everything. We take the ability to have sex for granted and sometimes even let sex get in the way appreciating people for who they really are. Brashier admits to having the same sexual desires she had before the cancer. And why wouldn’t she? But for her and many like her, sex is not the defining factor of a relationship — it’s who you are and how you live your life. Love and Platonic Intimacy, The Slasher Chick

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One thought on “New Dating Site Connects People Who Cannot Have Sex

  1. Mor D Tommy Medina says:

    DEAR FRIEND DAME SANDRA AGREE BY VIRTUE I HAVE PROFILE ON SEVERAL SITES WEB FIND EVENLY AND UNFORTUNATELY IS SO DIFFICULT FOR INTERNET KNOW A SOMEONE FOR MARRIAGE WHO DO NOT HAVE IN HIS HEAD SEX SEX SEX SEX WITHOUT MARRIAGE AND FORGET THE COMMUNICATION TRUST LOVE AS SOMETHING THAT IS MORE PARAMOUNT IN THE COUPLE RELATIONSHIP.; BECAUSE FOR MY THE BE FAITHFUL BE SOMEONE FROM THE CONVERSATION AND THE COMPRATIR OTHER ACTIVITIES THAT DO NOT HAVE IN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX SHOULD BE A PRIORITY IN LIFE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN…; NOT ONLY SEX SEX…; AS WOMEN THAT NOT IS SICK OF ANYTHING, I AM COMPLETELY FULL OF HEALTH AND I MAKE A PROFILE IN 2DATE4LOVE BECAUSE I AM RIGHT THAT IS THERE WHERE AND FIND THAT MAN WHO IS DECENT FOR MARRIAGE AND LEAVE THE SEX IN THE DEPTHS OF THE UNDERGROUND….; I AM THAT I AM DELIGHTED BECAUSE FOR MY GREAT HOPE OF FINDING THE MAN WHO SHOULD BE THE GREAT LOVE OF MY LIFE AND THE MAN TO PROTECT MY WIFE AS TO GIVE GREATER ATTENTION TO THE TRUE LOVE WITHOUT HAVING TO BE IN SEX ALL THE TIME AND I MEAN YOU CONGRATULATE SO GREAT IDEA AND YOUR MAKE ME HAPPY BY SO…THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR CREATING THE WEB SITE

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