Date Online – Without Ever Going Online

Personal Dating Agent ScreenshotThere was a time in the not-so-distant past when online dating was considered taboo. Dangerous, even. One of the most common reasons people warned against it was because you never knew who was actually on the other end of those private messages you were getting.

Nowadays that way of thinking seems antiquated; after all, we’ve all become web-savvy enough to navigate our way through what’s fake and what’s real when it comes to our online interactions, right?

Well, not if the creators of Personal Dating Agent do their job.

Personal Dating Agent is a new online dating service based in the UK that essentially does the online dating for you. Their dating agents get to know their clients, create online profiles for them, and pose as their clients on said online dating sites. All the client has to do is show up for the date.

According to co-founder Maxime Leufroy-Murat, the site “is targeted to both men and women who don’t have time to go online, scramble through thousands of profiles, send messages … with no guarantee of success. Or for people who just don’t know how [online dating] works.”

The site encourages people to use its services for three reasons: 1) To save time by letting someone else do the work for you; 2) To take advantage of their online dating expertise; and 3) To have a safer online dating experience. Clients can choose whether or not to disclose right up front that they are using a dating agent.

“Our concept is about doing it all for them, not with algorithms, but with people,” Leufroy-Murat said in an email interview. “We have a team of dating agents who will get to know the member, create their dating profile, sign them up to two sites, find their matches, message them, and organize a date. We become the client online, in other words. The big difference is that we guarantee dates to the member. If we don’t deliver, he gets his money back.”

According to Leufroy-Murat, the site is not a means of deception. The dating agents limit their online interactions with potential dates to 3-4 messages and focus on setting up real-life dates. “We avoid creating relationships online; we are here to facilitate a meeting,” he said.

The site launched in November of 2011. As of this month, they have had more than 80 clients and nine success stories (that they are aware of). The service is available worldwide.

Share Your Thoughts
How would you feel if you found out your date, who you thought you “met” online, was facilitated through a Personal Dating Agent?  Would it make a difference if everything worked out in the end, or would you feel deceived?  Do you think this is a good service for people who are too busy to use online dating sites, or do you think if they’re too busy to online date, they are too busy to date at all? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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10 thoughts on “Date Online – Without Ever Going Online

  1. One More Night says:

    I guess it’s no different from putting your resume in the hands of an employment agency. No, hang on, it IS different. For a start an employment agency asks before touting you to an employer. Mainly, though, it’s potentially starting a personal relationship in a very impersonal way. Surely it’s more of an introductions agency, or the traditional dating agency. I thought online dating had made that idea redundant. Hmm…

    • Mika Doyle says:

      That’s an interesting thought. One could argue online dating is already “starting a personal relationship in a very impersonal way,” so such a service is further depersonalizing what should be a very deep and personal process. Is it going too far, or does such a service have value?

      • One More Night says:

        Maybe it’s the answer – a professional telling you who you should date. Trying to get personal in an essentially impersonal setting is doomed. You see what you want to see. As Billy Joel once said, “there’s a new band in town but you can’t get the sound from a story in a magazine”.

        • Mika Doyle says:

          If the dating agents are as experienced and skilled as the site touts, then that would be a great value. I suppose it’s the same as turning to a matchmaker; my only qualm is that both parties typically know a matchmaker is involved. With this service, potential dates may never know a dating agent was involved. Does that make a difference? I’m not sure. I suppose it depends on each person as an individual.

          • cindycochran says:

            That’s exactly the scenario I was imagining. The strength of this method is that it leaves you with a little more time, theoretically, to actually date rsh her than browse.

            • Mika Doyle says:

              I would agree with that. I may not agree with allowing yourself to get so busy that you don’t have time to discover dates on your own, but if that’s really what it’s come down to, then this is a great service. Personally I feel life is too short to allow yourself to get so wrapped up in work that you don’t have time to date. There again, I’m sure there are many factors I am not considering that make it difficult to put the time in to find good matches.

  2. Cindy Cochran says:

    This may be the most ridiculous definition of “lazy” I’ve run across … and yet, perhaps it’s just what singles need in a society that is so out of balance, so hopelessly entrenched in the idea that a lot is good, more is better, and everyone ought to work 60 hours a week, that there really is little time for even online date browsing.

    • Mika Doyle says:

      Or maybe the very fact that this service exists at all should serve as a sign that it’s time for us to slow it down and re-learn how to live again. In most Match.com and eHarmony commercials, there’s typically at least one person who says they turned to online dating because they didn’t have the time to date in the traditional sense. If we’ve gotten to the point where we don’t have time for a time-saving service, what does that say about our society?

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